Every subject is really two subjects in one. Abraham says this frequently. We’ve hinted at this concept a couple of times already so let’s explore it further here.
None of this is medical advice. Always follow the advice of your doctors.
We’ve seen it already
Twice already we’ve talked about how one English statement about wanting more money may be vibrationally aligned with either more money or lack of money. So when today’s Abraham-Hicks daily email sparked a little conversation about the topic on this end, it seemed like a good time to generalize the concept while it’s fresh on our minds.
“Once you’ve decided that you want something, the opposite of it is going to be very much a part of your awareness too.”
Abraham in Napa, CA on 2/27/97
A new desire
When life experience produces within you a new preference, a new desire is born. You conclude that you’d rather have something this way instead of that way. It seems like such a small thing, but you’ve grown all that is in the process.
Often the way this happens is by you observing or experiencing directly something you don’t want. So you start with something you don’t want, and internally, you decide what you do want. The do and the don’t are opposites. One inspires the other.
Where things get messy is in separating the do’s from the don’t’s. When asked why you want that thing you do want, you’re inclined to point to what you don’t want and say, “That’s why.” This is what the daily quote is describing, and this is what we aim to stop.
Two ends of the stick
Every subject is really two subjects in one. Money or lack of money. Health or lack of health. Relationship or lack of relationship. Peace and quiet or lack of peace and quiet. What I do want or lack of what I do want (also known as don’t want).
Another Abrahamism is to talk about the two ends of the stick. If we compare any given subject to a stick, then there are two ends of the stick just as each subject is two subjects in one but with opposite vibrations.
Our goal is to spend more time looking at the desirable end of the stick. Once your preference is born (regardless of how it was inspired), look to the preference. To the extent possible, ignore the lack end of the stick. If you’re a dog person, imagine the other end of the stick was used to pick up after your dog. Keep it as far away from your nose as possible.
If missing a rent payment causes you to want more money, then spend more time focusing on what you do want instead of what you don’t want (i.e. lack of what you do want). Avoid complaining about not-enoughness. Avoid listening to others who complain. Even more, avoid sympathizing with others who complain! Look for examples of success rather than examples of hardship. The world is full of both, and you can control where you look. Avoid the smelly end of the stick. Do what you have to do to keep your promises, and show yourself there is enough.
The vibration of the solution
When we get bogged down in the vibration of the problem, the solution simply cannot present itself to us. If the solution appeared despite our insistence on giving most of our attention to the smelly end of the stick, it would defy the law of attraction. Eventually, you’ll recognize this as a feature instead of a bug. If you can’t trust the rules when you need them the most, then you’re no better off than anyone following the clueless rules.
As we get better at recognizing there’s a problem just long enough to start allowing a solution, things happen fast. It can be as fast as, “Oh, that’s a solved problem, and here’s why.” The fix can be as close as “I recognize that part, and we have it in stock.” The solution can be as immediate as, “Wait, I almost didn’t see this irregularity. Let’s get a second scan before we start this dramatic life-ruining procedure.” It’s possible (in fact, it’s guaranteed), but we have to get off the smelly end of the stick first. Without contradiction, we only need faith the size of a mustard seed.
We don’t have to spend 100% of our time thinking about the preferred side of the subject, but more is better. To begin, try to get above 50% of the time.
We can do the bare minimum, stabilize the situation, keep our promises, revive the patient, or change the tire. After that, we turn our attention to the solution whenever possible. I know there’s a solution here. As soon as we change the subject, it’ll come to me. Look around for anything that would work.
Sympathy vs Empathy
It’s hard to turn a blind eye to the suffering of those around you. The law of attraction basically says to ignore them to the extent possible and save yourself. Remember how in an airplane emergency, you’re supposed to put the oxygen mask over your own face before you help others? To do otherwise would risk you passing out before you can be of any assistance.
“And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.”
Matthew 5:29
Of course, that seems cruel and heartless when you aren’t yet certain of the rules of the game. It does help to distinguish between sympathy and empathy though. People use the words synonymously; they use empathize when they mean to say sympathize.
Sympathize with someone when you want to share the experience or emotions of their outcome. By all means, revel in their great fortune when it’s something you want to experience personally. But when it’s not something you want to experience personally, empathize instead. Recognize their situation as needed, but quickly become a vibrational match for their solution. As you come to trust the actual rules of the game, you’ll realize this is the only real way to help anyone in need.
Go general
It’s easy to focus on the smelly end of the stick. Physical life often shows you the situation you’re trying to change, and as long as you focus on that, you’ll get more of that.
It’s harder to focus on the thing you want that’s the exact opposite of what’s in front of you right now in physical reality. This is a fact which nobody would pretend to argue, but practice does work.
You’ll get better at it as you practice more, but until then, it’ll help to be general. Having trouble imagining too much money? Imagine freedom instead. Having trouble imagining perfect health? Imagine enjoying the great outdoors instead. Having trouble imaging whatever you do want? Imagine some general situation in the future that just happens to have what you really want and why.
Ramtha gets a little more specific and says to leave out all “people, places, things, times, and events.” When we can get to this level of generality about what we want and why we want it, things are on their way.
The end, no the other end
There’s a shortcut to everything above. You know you’re properly thinking about the desirable end of the stick when the thought feels good! When your thinking is in alignment with your inner being who’s already become fully invested in what you really want, then the thought feels great.
Everything above is important if you want to consciously know what to do, but we all have the option to feel our way there too.
